How Not to Heal a Broken Heart

Don’t isolate yourself.

Don’t move away from everyone who loves and cares about you. Don’t think you have to get through this alone.

Don’t think being upset is a sign of weakness. Don’t put on a brave face.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. But don’t rely on your ex to make you feel better or lean on them for support.

Don’t sleep with them again.

Don’t obsessively check WhatsApp to see when they were last online and wonder who they’re talking to at 1am. Don’t stalk them on social media and assume every new person they are pictured with is their new partner. Don’t over analyse every single thing they post online and convince yourself it means they’re fine and/or never cared about you in the first place. In fact, don’t keep them on social media at all. Nothing good will come of it.

Don’t google them when they’ve blocked you from all social media and cry over the pictures you can find online.

Don’t convince yourself they were the best thing since sliced bread, and you’ll never find anyone better.

Don’t tell yourself it was all your fault. Don’t tell yourself it was all their fault either. Truth is, just like relationships, break ups are never truly only about one of you.

Don’t keep talking to them.

Don’t feel the need to text them to tell them every little thing that happened to you that day. If they text you, don’t text them back. Don’t believe that you can be ‘just friends’. Maybe one day you can, but realise that if you’re trying to go straight from SOs to just friends one or both of you just can’t bring themselves to let go.

Don’t call them when you’re upset. Don’t beg for their attention.

Don’t stop taking care of yourself. Eat well, meditate, try to get some sleep, and be kind to yourself. Although it sometimes feels like it is, getting blind drunk night after night is not the answer.

Don’t miss this opportunity to grow. Every relationship that ends is a lesson in how to do things better next time around.

Don’t tell yourself you are broken, damaged, unloveable.

Don’t sleep with the first person who shows any interest just because you’re starved of affection. It will only make you feel worse in the long run. But when the time is right, don’t be afraid to meet someone new. And when you do, don’t be too scared to let them in. Don’t hold back to ‘protect’ yourself.

Don’t be afraid to fall in love again.

 

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